Don’t be so hard on yourself. You are a human being capable of making mistakes. We all make mistakes. Learn from them and grow. Shame is different than guilt. When we are ashamed of ourselves, we impede psychological growth. The damage is pervasive to the core of our being and prevents feelings of genuine concern and growth from arising. Guilt is the acknowledgement of responsibility for our actions. While guilt and shame go hand in hand, guilt allows us to empathize with the other person’s pain and feel remorse. When that happens, we can use that empathy as a tool to learn how to prevent instilling that kind of pain upon the other person again.
Learn to forgive. Learn to let go. (Shame vs. Guilt)
Great explanation about the difference between guilt and shame. “Shame…prevents feelings of genuine concern and growth from arising.” How true!
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Thanks. When I found that out, it helped me IMMENSELY! Glad you like it.
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Such great advice my darling Jess. Now if only they made medication to help us forgive ourselves.
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I think I found one. It’s called FUKITOL (2just-fukallthisshit HCL): 1000mg
Side effects may include:
1) a sudden overwhelming sense of satisfaction.
Do not use while operating heavy machinery.
Forget talking to your doctor about if FUKITOL is right for you, cause who needs that unreliable bastard anyways?
http://funnyjunk.com/funny_pictures/2501571/Fukitol/
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Hi,
It’s nice you try to make people feel less guilty. Regrets are bad. Life is too short.
I met you in the Community Pool where you indicated you are a new blogger. I help new bloggers at my site. I brought you the link to my About page, so you can read what my blog can do for you.
http://wp.me/P6x6vQ-89
Janice
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Thanks Janice. I’m good. Appreciate the advice 🙂
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Thanks for this Jess! 🙂 Lol and thanks for reminding me to not be so hard on myself! One thing I have struggled with throughout my life is too much guilt actually…for things that are not even my own fault….however I do consider myself to be an empathetic person…sometimes it goes into overdrive and needs to be balanced out for sure as I beat myself up if I can’t “fix” everything. Great post! Thanks for sharing! 🙂
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Thanks for commenting Cavelle! I’m EXACTLY the same way. I’ll exhaust myself taking on everyone’s pain on top of my own. You just gotta move forward, especially if they have already forgiven you. Trust me. I reread this post all the time now as a reminder. 😉
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Lol I will be doing the same! If you repeat it enough to yourself, eventually you will be believe it….lol still repeating 😉
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Reblogged this on The Bipolar Compass and commented:
**Reblog**
Reminder to not take myself so seriously all the time.
After all…
It’s OK to feel lost every once in a while 😉
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Reblogged this on living in stigma.
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Oh my God thank you so much for the reblog!!!
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Hey, I only reblog the great stuff!! Deb 🙂
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Hi Jess,
Your readers love your article! Thanks for bringing it to the Pit Stop.
Janice, Pit Stop Crew
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Hey Janice. That’s fantastic. How can you tell if they do?
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