The Bipolar Compass

Ready. Set. Sail!

I never post this often but I gotta speak.

Nancy…this one’s for you!

Let’s sit down and have a nice chat for a minute.

Here is a quick question: How many of you have been hurt by a man? Lied to? Blindsided?
Here is the situation. I’m a nice person. I tend to care too much. My biggest problem is that I can’t say “NO.” Some sort of servitude thing to men I guess. I had a really bad relationship with my dad when I was growing up. Felt like I was never good enough. He would criticize me constantly! Tell me I was stupid, fat, and unattractive even though I wasn’t. He would tell me not to leave the house without any makeup on. Heck! I had to get fully dressed WITH MAKEUP ON for breakfast. He would say things like, “You’re really going outside looking like that?!” or “You look tired.” or my personal favorite when he suggested I get surgery to lose weight because my husband wouldn’t approve and I look “inappropriate.”

Fine. That’s his opinion. But we as women shouldn’t listen to it. WE are a powerful sex. WE don’t need a man to validate who we are. WE don’t need a man’s approval to dress or look like how we want. They need to stop touching us without our approval. Stop catcalling. Stop pushing, yelling, and hitting us!

Stop listening to the patriarchy for validation!! STOP IT!!

You are all beautiful, fun, intelligent human beings! No man should take away your freedom. Your confidence. Your self-worth. I can’t and won’t accept it anymore. I’m amazing. I’m the whole package. If my man can’t see that then I’m out.

And those of us women who belong to the tribe, you are doing your best. Let him criticize. Let him say what he wants. You are NOT a burden. You are NOT weak. You are NOT bad. No matter what you’ve done, you deserve to be happy. Period. That’s a truth. Don’t ever forget it.

Let’s band together as women to support and lift each other up instead of bickering about what a man sees as ideal.

Stand with me my ladies. We run this world!

Some of them men think they freak this like we do
But no they don’t
Make your check come at they neck,
Disrespect us no they won’t

Boy don’t even try to touch this
Boy this beat is crazy
This is how they made me
Houston Texas baby
This goes out TO ALL MY GIRLS
That’s in the club rocking the latest
Who will buy it for themselves and get more money later
I think I need a barber
None of these n—– can fade me
I’m so good with this,
I remind you I’m so hood with this
Boy I’m just playing
Come here baby
Hope you still like me
F- you pay me

My persuasion can build a nation
Endless power, with our love we can devour
You’ll do anything for me

and…my personal favorite…

If I were a boy
I think I could understand
How it feels to love a girl
I swear I’d be a better man.
I’d listen to her
‘Cause I know how it hurts
When you lose the one you wanted (wanted)
‘Cause he’s taken you for granted (granted)
And everything you had got destroyed

But you’re just a boy