Ready. Set. Sail!
I never post this often but I gotta speak.
Nancy…this one’s for you!
Let’s sit down and have a nice chat for a minute.
Here is a quick question: How many of you have been hurt by a man? Lied to? Blindsided?
Here is the situation. I’m a nice person. I tend to care too much. My biggest problem is that I can’t say “NO.” Some sort of servitude thing to men I guess. I had a really bad relationship with my dad when I was growing up. Felt like I was never good enough. He would criticize me constantly! Tell me I was stupid, fat, and unattractive even though I wasn’t. He would tell me not to leave the house without any makeup on. Heck! I had to get fully dressed WITH MAKEUP ON for breakfast. He would say things like, “You’re really going outside looking like that?!” or “You look tired.” or my personal favorite when he suggested I get surgery to lose weight because my husband wouldn’t approve and I look “inappropriate.”
Fine. That’s his opinion. But we as women shouldn’t listen to it. WE are a powerful sex. WE don’t need a man to validate who we are. WE don’t need a man’s approval to dress or look like how we want. They need to stop touching us without our approval. Stop catcalling. Stop pushing, yelling, and hitting us!
Stop listening to the patriarchy for validation!! STOP IT!!
You are all beautiful, fun, intelligent human beings! No man should take away your freedom. Your confidence. Your self-worth. I can’t and won’t accept it anymore. I’m amazing. I’m the whole package. If my man can’t see that then I’m out.
And those of us women who belong to the tribe, you are doing your best. Let him criticize. Let him say what he wants. You are NOT a burden. You are NOT weak. You are NOT bad. No matter what you’ve done, you deserve to be happy. Period. That’s a truth. Don’t ever forget it.
Let’s band together as women to support and lift each other up instead of bickering about what a man sees as ideal.
Stand with me my ladies. We run this world!
Some of them men think they freak this like we do
But no they don’t
Make your check come at they neck,
Disrespect us no they won’tBoy don’t even try to touch this
Boy this beat is crazy
This is how they made me
Houston Texas baby
This goes out TO ALL MY GIRLS
That’s in the club rocking the latest
Who will buy it for themselves and get more money later
I think I need a barber
None of these n—– can fade me
I’m so good with this,
I remind you I’m so hood with this
Boy I’m just playing
Come here baby
Hope you still like me
F- you pay meMy persuasion can build a nation
Endless power, with our love we can devour
You’ll do anything for me
and…my personal favorite…
If I were a boy
I think I could understand
How it feels to love a girl
I swear I’d be a better man.
I’d listen to her
‘Cause I know how it hurts
When you lose the one you wanted (wanted)
‘Cause he’s taken you for granted (granted)
And everything you had got destroyedBut you’re just a boy
My dad has always been critical of everything about me. So rather than try to please him or any other man, I became so solid on my own, I think I frighten men. They take me as a challenge to beaten down, something to be broken. Then they can walk away cos I am damaged.
It used to hurt. Not anymore. I started living by the Marilyn Monroe quote, “If you can’t handle me at my worst, you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.”
Not one of them. Ever. Deserved me. And frankly if being alone is more entertaining than their company was…sheesh, was I off my meds or what?
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That’s an absolutely beautiful quote. I’m going to have to make a graphic about it. No but I’m not even close to the same boat as you. You’re the kind of person I look up to for your strength. What with the donor and R and Spook and her friends eating you out of house and home…you have a lot on your plate. I don’t doubt you can stand on your own two feet. If you ever need anything from me, let me know. Take care!
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Jess don’t listen to their lies because you don’t need anyone that bad. Some of them will bring you down so you think you need them. I’ve been lied to, abused mentally by one and physically by another, cheated on by some and worked to death. I was one of those that was told it was all in my head because I was bipolar. And finally I woke up and decided I wouldn’t be treated that way any more. I learned the hard way though he broke me financially before I was done. Take care of you and don’t take the blame anymore, you are a strong, beautiful, smart woman. You are validated by your sisters out here who will tell you the truth. Ok getting off my highhorse now. It touched a nerve with me about some men!!!
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Here here! Women of the world unite!😘
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I had a really horrible boyfriend in my mid-20’s who seemed to figure out who sick I was before I even knew and leaned on the triggers that sent me running and screaming to my bed. But, my co-dependency issues were so strong (they still are, but not like this) that even after I found out he cheated on me I didn’t want him to leave me. For three years after we broke up, I took him back over and over and over whenever he got bored. My hubby would appear to be my gift from the universe for dealing with that shit.
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Sorry about your sucky boyfriend. Men can be so annoying and confusing!
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True dat!
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