Jess Melancholia Q & A Contest

Ready, Set, Sail!

Hey there everyone. I’m back with a quick update: not much going on.

Honest to Christ stability is so boring sometimes. Does anyone else get that feeling? I am trying to come up with something to say but there really isn’t anything. So this time I’m going to let you guys decide what I should talk about! C’mon it’ll be fun. Maybe. Idunno. You think I know? Whatever. Just comment/send me your best question, or whatever you want to ask (nothing private like my address/phone number/real name/ SSN/etc!!!!) and I’ll respond in a Jiffy. Top questions will have their questions featured in my next blog post!

Good luck,

Jess!

 


9 thoughts on “Jess Melancholia Q & A Contest

  1. Stability is boring. But those around us love us stable. For many sufferers, the ‘bore’ you refer possibly, is recognition that some facets of bipolar are euphorically addictive. When missing, life itself is boring. Cutting up veges for dinner vs riding the rollercoaster without seatbelt is boring. But it will keep you alive. It doesn’t destroy your life, or friendships, or the lives of those around you

    My heart goes out to those who cannot find any stabilization. For me, right here, right now, I wish I were completely off the planet. Because I’m using every atom in my body to hold half a resemblance of life together.

    I am sooooo tired of fighting my mind. Instability almost gives you mental permission to just let go…

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  2. Stability is part of the game. Just play the game. You learn as the game evolves.

    So here’s my question:
    Did you know you were different (mental illness) as a child? And can you remember your first cognitive hyper/depressive state?

    Thanks!
    Mychael

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  3. I’ve just been diagnosed as bipolar. A bit scared but relieved as well. The manic episodes are when I have done amazing and stupid things in life. I felt invincible. I could take on the world and win at doing so. Then would crash to the bottom into a severe depression that seems to last forever. Hiding from all my friends, family and life itself.

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  4. I’m intrigued. I don’t know if I’m bi polar or not. Hyper sexual sounds very familiar and I struggle with it lately. Some months are better than others, some seasons summer for instance I feel ‘ok’ with it and don’t see it as a problem. Where other times of the year I definitely feel depressed around not being able to manage this behaviour. I’m much older (47) and have been through therapy and married for 14 years. I’m getting better not feeling the guilt or shame yet it reappears. I know I’m not looking for another marriage or want to exit this one. It’s more about these urges, desires for other women, the feelings associated with the intense rush, the ‘fix’ , it’s like a drug that you can’t control and satisfies a big urge. Anyhow, Im glad I came across your blog and appreciate your honesty and wish you stability, peace and happiness this new year.

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  5. Hi there. I just found your blog. It’s incredible. So my story: I’ve been married for 20 years and had an amazing marriage – with three great kids. A month ago I checked my bipolar wife’s phone and found out she was having a 6 month affair with another guy .. and had an affair with a guy before him who she still texted with .. . and also had met a dozen or so guys on Tinder for sex. I told her to get out .. she begged me to let her stay. She said she desperately loves me. We’re doing counseling but divorce is coming. She knows it too. I can’t get the text messages (which I read almost every night) and images out of my head. She had been depressed and in July 2017 she got a prescription for an antidepressant from her GP .. causing her first manic episode. She cheated on me the first time during that episode – though I didn’t know. She went on different drugs and I haven’t seen another manic episode. But – and I know you know about this – there was hypomania. So for 18 months she’s been sleeping around. She’s alienated all of her friends and she’s lost her best friend – me. I was so stupidly supportive. .. only to be betrayed over and over. I went back and looked at all of our text messages for the last year and a half .. there’s me offering words of love and support on the days she was sleeping with other guys .. and she was loving right back to me. I don’t know if I’m capable of this level of forgiveness. But 20 years of marriage and 3 kids means I’m willing to try (does that make me even more of a chump? Probably). Any advice is appreciated. She had so many chances to come to me .. we had a good relationship and she has no complaintts about me . But she chose to lie .. she says it was shame. I’d only she had said something like you did.

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    1. There is nothing I can tell you that will take the pain and betrayal away. The only thing I can say is she wasnt herself when she cheated. She does truly love you and wants more than anything in the world to be with you. Please give her a second chance.

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